okay. let me start this story by saying that, when i started reading harry potter, i was eight years old and the year was 1999.
the character closest to my age (and, as a bonus: a girl!) was ginny weasley. in the sorcerer’s stone, the most information you get about ginny is her being shy and standing behind her mother’s legs, but i already lived in a world where i was ginny weasley in my head. that was my fantasy as an eight-year-old girl. when i heard about the frist movie being made, i dreamed about being discovered and cast as ginny weasley. that was aLL I WANTED.
fast forward. book two is released, and ginny weasley became my favorite character of basically all time.
see, people hate ginny. people hate her because, frankly, HARRY-VISION sucks. for four of the first five books, ginny is no more than a peripheral character who harry speaks to only when necessary— hell, even in ginny’s story (chamber of secrets), she is treated as an accessory by harry. she is his best friend’s little sister. she doesn’t matter to him until he looks up one day and sees her as, to put it bluntly, a sexual creature. he has to see ginny making out with guys for him to realize that he’s been thinking (for six damn books) of ginny as being his.
people don’t like ginny, in my experience, because they hate harry/ginny. and that’s cool, man. i am WITH YOU SO HARD ON THAT. i HATE harry/ginny. i hate it because it doesn’t make sense; i hate it because it’s easy; i hate it because there’s no chemistry there; i hate it because it’s giving harry literally everything he’s ever wanted without considering ginny as a character and without considering what ginny wants. harry gets ginny because, when he has ginny, he’s finally a weasley like he’s always wanted to be!!!!! he and ginny are essentially ghosts of his parents when it comes to how they look, and they name all of their children after the ghosts from harry’s life!
but none of that is ginny’s fault.
see, ginny is my favorite character possibly of all time because people hate her so blindly. because people are so willing to forget what ginny went through— because jkr wrote all of her characters to forget what ginny went through.
at age eleven, ginny weasley stood up for harry potter and raised her chin towards draco malfoy in a clear this is my side gesture. at age eleven.
and then ginny weasley experienced something horribly, horribly traumatic.
she was lonely and in a big new place, where her brothers had their own friends and their own occupations. they played quidditch and hung out with harry potter… and ginny? ginny had nobody. the only person who would talk to her was a diary that was slipped into her things by lucius malfoy— a diary containing the spirit of tom riddle.
a diary that she knew she shouldn’t talk to, but she couldn’t help herself. she was eleven years old and lonely, so lonely. and she wanted to be brave like a gryffindor should be, so she didn’t think she could turn to anyone for help. not even when she was blacking out and waking up with actual blood on her hands. she was a scared eleven year old whose body and mind were being TAKEN AWAY FROM HER in a story that is not unlike rape. tom riddle wedged his way inside of her, stripped her of her agency, and fed off of her soul.
until harry potter saved the day, of course.
but, after that? what happened to ginny’s story?
it disappeared. it was completely buried by the excitement of sirius black’s escape in the third book. it was never brought up again until order of the phoenix when we get this dialogue:
“I didn’t want anyone to talk to me,” said Harry, who was feeling more and more nettled.
“Well, that was a bit stupid of you,” said Ginny angrily, “seeing as you don’t know anyone but me who’s been possessed by You-Know-Who, and I can tell you how it feels.”
Harry remained quite still as the impact of these words hit him. Then he wheeled round. “I forgot,” he said.
“Lucky you,” said Ginny coolly.
so, while the rest of the whole damn world forgot about ginny’s AWFUL past, guess who didn’t? GINNY. for four years she handled that shit— seemingly— all by herself.
again, let me emphasize: all by herself. because ginny doesn’t have friends in the harry potter books. she has a connection to the golden trio because her brother is ron, but ginny and hermione do not have a best friends forever attitude. nor do ginny and luna. nor do ginny and neville. you see a few cases of ginny/luna/neville being together because they’re pushed together by their own isolation— by the way none of them really quite belong.
ginny is always brave. at eleven she stands up to malfoy. at fourteen, she hits malfoy with a bat-bogey hex and follows harry to the ministry of magic. she fights in all of the hogwarts battles. she never strays from the side of good— but she also never forgets that she has faced tom riddle. in the canon, she has had a more intimate relationship with tom riddle than anyone other than harry. she never lets herself forget that, even when everyone else in her life seems too eager to forget about it and move on.
another thing about ginny: she doesn’t get ‘beautiful’ overnight, which is an argument i hear pretty often. ginny’s ALWAYS pretty— boys start to date her as early as her fourth year, so she’s clearly a desirable girl.
ginny exists in this realm between girls like lavender brown (who we get the idea dates frivolously and frequently) and hermione (who winds up in a One True Love storyline with the only ‘maybe’ before that love being victor krum). ginny dates around, finds out what she likes, and has what she likes. she doesn’t apologize for dating, she just dates. she makes out with boys! she acts like a freaking teenager! and that’s okay!!! i am so fucking sick of people bitching about ginny being a “mary sue” because boys like her.
of course, the only times we see ginny are when harry sees her.
and once harry has a crush on ginny? he’s a sixteen year old boy— and teenagers with crushes do a great deal of idolizing their crushes. with HARRY-VISION, ginny is beautiful and talented and funny. to harry, there are no flaws to his crush; even the obnoxious/stupid things she’d do would be seen as ‘cute.’ so, of course, coming from harry’s point of view, ginny’s transition from “wallflower, girl with a fannish crush on me” to “stunning, mature girl i want to make my girlfriend” is QUICK and a little (a lot) jarring.
but, while JKR did NOT set up harry’s admiration for ginny in the earlier books (a book earlier, harry was kissing cho chang), JKR DID set up ginny weasley— but people had written ginny off so early that the little details about who she was dating, what she was saying, and how she looked were cast away. and now, post-HBP, people are so overcome with their dislike of ginny that they don’t see just how terrific a character she is in the re-reading.
ginny’s brave and beautiful; she doesn’t have to choose between being one or the other. but harry, and the readers, only notice that she’s amazing— strong and stubborn and harboring the darkest memories of any of the hogwarts students without batting the slightest eyelash — once harry has a crush on her.
and in the surge of the shittiness that is harry/ginny, ginny takes the hit most frequently. people bitch and moan about “ginny’s my least favorite character” and “ginny sux” and “i hate her” and i just want to shake them and say
“give her some goddamn respect; she suffered more than just about ANYONE in that damn series and then everyone who claimed to care about her JUST FORGOT.”
but ginny didn’t forget. she kept her chin up and went on with her life— went on to have the most normal life of all of the teenagers we saw in the harry potter series, really. even though she never let anyone get as close to her as tom riddle ever again— she kept no “best friends” that we know of— ginny fought through and stayed strong, and there is a whole story of recovery and strength that harry wasn’t there to see, so we never got to experience it as readers.
but it happened— it HAD to have happened. you don’t just get OVER that (ginny makes it clear that she STILL hasn’t in the quote i listed above). there’s a story there— one that harry never gives a shit about finding out. and i love ginny because of that aspect of her. because she can have this whole, unspoken story that we only get in TINY bits and pieces based on what HARRY sees of her.
and fuck the haters, that story is awesome. ginny is a badass motherfucker and she survived tom riddle trying to suck her soul out of her at age eleven. that deserves some god damn respect, ok.
Anonymous asked: Shut the fuck up about 50 shades of grey. No one fucking cares
let me just give you a quick run down of all the things wrong with this ask:
1-you assume i care what some asshole anon has to say when i have 300 pounds and i’m going kikass birthday shopping today
2-you assume id care about some asshole anon any other day of the year
3-i care about the 50 shades of grey thing. and whether you do or not is irrelevant to me because you are, after all, just an asshole anon
4- this is my blog and i’ll post whatever the fuck i want, if you cant take three fucking posts about something without turning into a soggy cum stained dishrag then i suggest you make use of that unfollow button because youre gross
5- lemme break this down for you
if you dont care about this 50 shades situation, you need to grow the fuck up and look at the facts
the fact is the book was so misinformed that all the practises about bdsm culture were ignored and shit all over.
he ignores the safeword
he legitimately rapes her
he never explains everything about bdsm culture to her, shes so misinformed its ridiculous
and all of this is going even more public than it already has and its being romanticised and released on valentines day
like “happy valentines honey! i bought some ropes i dont actually know how to tie and a whip i dont actually know how to use and i’m going to just gloss over the fact you’re uncomfortable because that clearly doesnt matter!”
incorrect use of a whip can cause organ failure
incorrect knots used on wristst or feet can literally cause them to need to be amputated
its perpetuating rape culture in ways ive never seen it be advanced to this leve; and if you dont care then youre truly disgusting
you dont care about the kids not fully understanding their sexuality being abused by older people who they think are totally allowed to do this shit?
you dont care about the people that will be raped because of this because hey apparently rape is sexy?
you dont care about the fact that the bdsm culture is, once again, being portrayed as people who are fucked up and must have been abused to be that way rather than normal people who enjoy a kink in their own homes?
you dont care about the fact that youre not supposed to bleed on your first time. ever. and now tons more girls are going to think that its completely normal? that tons more guys will? that tons of people are going to think its expected for the female to bleed when SHE WONT IF SHES BEEN SUFFICIENTLY TURNED ON AND STRETCHED ITS REALLY NOT THAT HARD
you dont care about the stereotype of subs not actually enjoying bdsm culture is being widespread? that all subs dislike it and simply have an ulterior motive?
you dont care about the underlying message of the book being “a woman should give everything, including herself, to a man”?
you dont care about all the people in abusive relationships that will think “oh well this must be normal then” and stay there?
christian grey is a run-of-the-mill abusive boyfriend. he isnt a dom.
a dom loves his/her sub completely and the motto of bdsm is "safe, willing and sane" (or something like that anyone feel free to correct me)
it means that both partners have to be completely willing, with boundaries, safewords and everything worked out before they even think about touching eachother intimately.
if something is a boundary, you dont fucking do it
if the safeword is used it stops. everything stops
a dom should treat his sub like a goddamn princess (unless they have prearranged and understand that he wont eg-pet play, slave play where anything outside of the bedroom is also in the same dynamic HOWEVER IT IS STILL CONSENSUAL SO IT IS STILL OKAY)
a dom is not christian grey
but millions of people are going to think he is and are going to think that thats the way bdsm should be and they’ll get involved in something very dangerous if they dont have the real facts.
that people will think its romantic because this shit is scheduled for valentines day to treat your partner like shit, abuse her, and that what? getting them off absorbs you of all your shit? no. this is so fucking gross and im not taking a backseat when this shit happens
so in conclusion
literally fuck you, you insensitive fuck stain, this issue is so fucking important.
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